If Patrick truly believes that Ford is a player and will never forgoe that part of his life and yet he still loves him and wants a relationship, then Eloise is correct in her assessment of the situation. Let's face it, a cheater seldom changes even for the love of their life. I doubt Ford really considers cheating such a big deal, as he think he is fulfilling everything Patrick needs.
On the other hand, if Patrick can't live with a semi-open marriage which is just not acknowledged, then he should be a man about it and discuss it with his lawyers. End of Story! Somehow I don't think that is the course our current author will have his character pursue. So I am still waiting for more fireworks.
P.S. The card mom dropped off could be the spark!