[DomLuka] Required Reading

[sat8997]

Michael has on several occasions suggested that Dom's writing be required reading for young people. I fully agree with this and recently received proof as to why this would be a great idea.

 

As I have said in the past, sexual orientation is a non-issue for me. I have also raised my daughters with the same understanding. Right now I'm fairly certain both my girls are straight. But if that's incorrect, they both know telling me will be drama free.

 

My oldest daughter is a few months shy of sixteen. She's a great kid if a bit of a nosy nellie. For some time now, she has been reading over my shoulder whenever I'm online. She was reading TOU in bits and pieces and asking too many questions for me to keep up so I said "Here, start from the beginning." She's up to chapter 10. She thinks Quinn is adorable even if, in her words, he spazes out now and then.

 

Now here's where the proof part comes in. During a visit to our local library, my oldest showed me a book she wanted to check out. It's call Am I Blue? by various authors. It's basically short stories centered around teens questioning their sexuality. I asked if there was something she wanted to tell me. She laughed and said "No Mom, I'm not gay. I like guys." But she said even though she never really thought about wether someone was gay or not, she hadn't realized that some of her friends might be struggling with the idea that they were. She said reading about Quinn dealing with the issue had her thinking. She wanted to be as informed as she could because she wants to make sure if one of her friends ever said 'I'm gay' she wanted to be the best friend that said 'Okay - what time are we meeting for the movies.'

 

Acceptance with no hesitation. I taught her the acceptance part, Dom's writing showed her the rest.

 

I think she's going to make a very good adult.

 

Sharon

[Conner]

WOW!

 

Good for you and good for her.

 

Hugs,

Conner

[Rocketcnj]

Sharon:)

 

Now that is one beautiful story!! It gives me great hope for the current generation when they are in charge of the world. Indeed, opinion polls show that being Gay is NOT an issue for this current generation.

 

Your daughter is the perfect example of that! I also believe it began with our generation and what we went through (the end of the Vietnam War era, Watergate, Irangate, the conservative era and the fact that we were and are part of the generation that saw the beginning and development of the Women's Movement and the Gay Rights Movement.

 

I also feel that your daughter has a great Mentor in you....that's just my opinion...You know as Snow Dog has said, and it applies to me as well, that loyalty to friends is important..I may be on the Rainbow side of the spectrum, but to me you are always and shall always remain the Best there is and one amazing Woman and Mom, even if you are a Dark side Team Captain:)

 

Now, tell your daughter to spread the word and have her friends read the story, indeed all Dom's stories....she can tell all of them so that when she does (and I am sensing she has her Mom's wisdom) that she won't be pointing out the story just the ones who are questioning or struggling with their sexual orientation so they don't feel uh oh my friend has found out about me and get all uncomfortable...

 

You made my day and wow..that is just one amazing story.....

 

Maybe your daughter will become a Domaholic and join us...so we get another teens perspective....

 

Please send her a huge Hug and thank you....and maybe you will let her join us:)

 

As a side note, I still roar over the story you told about your neighbor's son story about puberty and how you figured out very smartly that a Mom and a parent learns more by listening to what your occupants are talking about in the car rides to and from school....(I remember my cousin saying she does the same thing with her teenage son and daughters and she always knows what is going on without having to say a word and how her children can't figure out how she knows....but my cousin is smart and cool like you:)

 

I learned the same thing by playing cards with my niece and nephew...just by listening...you learn a lot..

 

well, to my favorte barefoot Mom thank you so much for sharing your post with us!!!

 

Rainbow Hugs (I know you are saying yuck phooey....LOL..but I am sending them anyway:)

 

Michael

[NaperVic]

Sharon,

 

That's great! I wish more parents and daughters/sons were as enlightened as you and your daughter.

 

So when will your daughter be getting her own GA ID?

 

There are quite a few nice 16yo 'boys' that frequent live chat that she could meet. Unfortunately, they're mostly gay

 

Vic

[sat8997]

So when will your daughter be getting her own GA ID? 

 

I've considered this already. Although, being the good parent that I am, her online time is limited to an hour a day (and I had to tell her, no there are no roll over minutes) and websites are restricted. I should warn you, she has a habit of being sarcastic. I have no idea where she gets this trait from.

 

Sharon

[DomLuka]

*Sniff.* Your daughter sounds like a keeper.

[Lucy Kemnitzer]

One of my kids is 26 and the other is 18. Their social circles overlap a lot because of common interest and because my son was my daughter's chaperone when she was young -- by that I mean he took her places with him when she was too young to go by herself. In these circles, they go beyond tolerance. Being gay is not only not a liability among their friends, it's a positive personality attribute. It's almost true throughout my daughter's high school -- there are social circles within the school where mere tolerance prevails, and others where intolerance lives. Mostly the school is merely tolerant. It has to do with the attitude of the adults, partly, but also it has to do with being in a college town with decent politics.

 

 

There are anecdotes that arise from this, but I just tried telling one and it was three paragraphs long before I could begin to come to the point. Anyway, if one high school can be like this, the world can be like this too. (no, the 26 year old is not in high school, but he did go to the same school for a year and a half and a lot of his friends went there too, besides the ones he has in common with his sister).

[ekaitz]

Hmm..some hope at least.. and good job mom!!

Now, would u adopt a sweet and cute gay 27 y/o? (We already agree on gay not being an issue )

[Masked Monkey]

Hmm..some hope at least.. and good job mom!! 

Now, would u adopt a sweet and cute gay 27 y/o?  (We already agree on gay not being an issue )

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I don't think you want sharon as a mom, she is always right so you wouldn't win many fights

 

Snow Dog

[Anna]

*Sniff.* Your daughter sounds like a keeper.

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she's sorta stuck with me. she has no choice but to keep me.

[NaperVic]

she's sorta stuck with me. she has no choice but to keep me.

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Well well well. Look who it is!

 

Welcome Anna to GayAuthors and Domaholic's. We hope you enjoy it here.

 

Oh, and if you are 1/2 as sarcastic as your mum, we're in trouble

 

Vic

[DomLuka]

she's sorta stuck with me. she has no choice but to keep me.

 

Just keep reminding her she's lucky to have you... don't cause any gray hairs and maybe she'll even believe you.

 

Welcome to GA.

[Masked Monkey]

she's sorta stuck with me. she has no choice but to keep me.

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One more for the Dark side, thank you Sharon

 

:king: Snow Dog

[Mark Arbour]

*Sniff.* Your daughter sounds like a keeper.

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she's sorta stuck with me. she has no choice but to keep me.

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WELCOME!

 

Damn. Another person I have to be nice to.

 

Glad you're with us!

[Masked Monkey]

Damn.  Another person I have to be nice to.

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Awww, don't worry kitty, some day the big meanie might take the shock collar off.

 

Edit: or at least give me the controls

 

Snowey

Edited August 17, 2005 by Snow Dog

[dkstories]

Damn.

[Masked Monkey]

Edit: or at least give me the controls

 

Snowey

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It will never happen...

 

 

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Which, taking off the colar or giving me the controls?

 

Snow Dog

Edited August 17, 2005 by Snow Dog

[shadows]

hey, welcome! It's always nice to have people under 25 here. Even if you are straight. And are of the opposite sex. I kid. This group can be slightly insane, so I'm rather surprised this isn't on your mom's block list. And good for you for visiting a library. Libraries are awesome places.

 

Speaking of which you need to do something about that. I'd go insane if I didn't have my internet access. You need it to do research I'm sure and all sorts of other important things. Unless you're happy with only having an hour in which case you're just weird. Or not a geek. There really isn't that much of a difference

 

//shadows (one of the gay spastic 17 year olds on the live chat)

[Anna]

Hey shadows, thanks for the welcome. And don't worry, slightly insane works for me. And I agree, libraries are really cool places. Oh, and I'm not a geek but I guess you could say I'm weird. The one hour on the internet sucks, I'm trying to get my dad to let me have more time on.

[dkstories]

Edit: or at least give me the controls

 

Snowey

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It will never happen...

 

 

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Which, taking off the colar or giving me the controls?

 

Snow Dog

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Both....oh and Anna...an hour a day? I'd day of internet starvation!

 

 

Then again I've been on the internet since 1989 and what scares me really is that some of you were born in that year.