The Drop in Centre

[chris191070]

8 hours ago, MichaelS36 said:

Our lifestyle is a beautiful thing. My frustration is that no matter that we have this place. No matter that we are willing to share with people who are interested, we are still the butt of jokes, still the entertainment, still the joke.   You cannot say or write these things about Black people, or women or other genders, but it is okay to write them about me and people like me. 

Normally, I say nothing. But frankly I have had enough.  If you cannot deal with it, I'm no longer going to apologize.  If you want to be here,  and you want to know us, you are welcome. 

If you don't, the door is there behind the strong young man on his knees. 

I didn't say anything yesterday. But powerful words, that really moved me. Yours and tim's lifestyle is something that should be loved and cherished, I know me and my husband have friends who are into your lifestyle and it's a beautiful thing to see. So yes I except I will read about the lifestyle but I expect it to be handled with consideration and not as a form of entertainment.

Take care good Sirs and all good friends on here x

Edited June 16, 2020 by chris191070

[chris191070]

Good Morning all from a fine and sunny 🌞 🇬🇧 

[Kitt]

4 hours ago, Ashi said:

To love is to forgive.  I don't think any one of us was born knowing everything in life, but I am sure we were all born with an open mind.

Quite true. Unfortunatly too many are taught from infancy to close that vast source of unlimited potential.

[MichaelS36]

2 hours ago, chris191070 said:

I didn't say anything yesterday. But powerful words, that really moved me. Yours and tim's lifestyle is something that should be loved and cherished, I know me and my husband have friends who are into your lifestyle and it's a beautiful thing to see. So yes I except I will read about the lifestyle but I expect it to be handled with consideration and not as a form of entertainment.

Take care good Sirs and all good friends on here x

Thank you, chris.  

[MichaelS36]

I really hate being up at this time when I do not have to be.  However,

 

 

I want it understood I am not attacking or blaming anyone … people say they want to understand … well it's there. Questions are welcome if anyone has any. 

tim wrote this poem … it says so much about us, and really who he is: 

 

Out

Today we went shopping you and me.
We met an older man.
He was not pretty,
but I won’t be if I live so long.
You talked to him like You do, so easily
so openly; while I stand quietly afraid
to trip over my tied tongue.
You said something about, my husband,
and he looked at each of us then.
I am so thinking, here it comes.
- me with little faith in my straight brothers -
He smiled and said: Oh, how wonderful!
And we stood, the three of us in
Best Buy, speaking of English TV
and detective shows.
As you do.

 

Edited June 16, 2020 by MichaelS36

[Kitt]

1 hour ago, MichaelS36 said:

I really hate being up at this time when I do not have to be.  

Hon, if I am still asleep at that time my husband wants to call a doc.

 

The rest of what I have to say is in your blog.

[Mikiesboy]

Michael said i should come back, so i have. i dont like upset or anger so i just stay away but here:

[Mikiesboy]

3 hours ago, MichaelS36 said:

And we stood, the three of us in
Best Buy, speaking of English TV
and detective shows.
As you do.

he was a nice man .. .interesting to listen to.

[Reader1810]

9 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

Michael said i should come back, so i have. i dont like upset or anger so i just stay away but here:

It’s good to see you, tim.  

[rickproehl]

32 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

Michael said i should come back, so i have. i dont like upset or anger so i just stay away but here:

 

tim 

welcome back and take care

[chris191070]

1 hour ago, Mikiesboy said:

Michael said i should come back, so i have. i dont like upset or anger so i just stay away but here:

 

It's good to see you, welcome back and take care tim xx

[mollyhousemouse]

i'm allergic to conflict, of any kind (even reading it ramps up my anxiety) i'll be around, just quiet for a bit

[Ashi]

5 hours ago, MichaelS36 said:

I really hate being up at this time when I do not have to be.  However,

I want it understood I am not attacking or blaming anyone … people say they want to understand … well it's there. Questions are welcome if anyone has any. 

I don't think anybody was trying to attack one another.  Communication via the Internet can be difficult sometimes as we missed 60% of the communication, which is the non-verbal cues.  Sometimes I reread my post and edited it just to put a smiley to it, as I realize with or without that smiley, the message can be interpreted very differently sometimes.... 

No harm is done, as far as I know.  I just wish you sleep well and stay healthy.  I almost woke up last night to see if I needed to modify my post, but I decided not to.  It bothered me a lot as I was strange enough, had been writing a chapter where MC kind of stopped caring what other thought of him, but he did care....  It's one of those strange thingy when you do something, and someone else you know (and care very much) suddenly has something happened in RL, and my funny little brain begins to draw parallel and it bothers me no end (and I am probably overthinking).  I had a feeling you knew what you were doing, you just needed time, so I left the post the way it is.  You have Tim, who like your meme suggests, is a very strong person, always next to you (physically and emotionally, I can feel it). 

I've always wondered if I shall get a BF, and the situation should arise that he decided to hold hands in public, would/should I be bothered by other people's look?  You're probably rolling eyes as this is like nothing when compared with D/s relationship, but you see, you've come farther than I have.  You have a loving hubby, and you're proud of him (and he is to you, as exhibited in that poem), so if anyone judged you (which I don't think anyone here did), it's actually quite petty when compared with the love you have for one another.  Now I just need to find a hubby and see if I could overcome my mental block of doing public display of affection.  LOL. 

Oh, I just remember another thingy....  I used to have a coworker who was involved with a married man who promised him he'd divorce his wife to marry him....  Every time I think of him or when I am precariously infatuated with a married person, I'd be feeling so sad.  I don't think my other coworkers were judging but our concern might have come across as such from his PoV.  But guess what?  He never let it bother him, but then he's ten years older than I am, so you gotta remember things about us older gays....  At the time people were just starting to accept homosexuality a little better, so he finally could be him, but the timing they met was just plain bad when one was already married.  He finally found his happiness, so I don't think he'd let that affair go.  I met him one more time after I quit that job, and his BF still did not marry him as promised.  Anyways, things have come far for LGBT+ people....  Hopefully things would be simpler in the future.  You young folks are very brave and paving ways for us older folks sometimes.

2 hours ago, Mikiesboy said:

Michael said i should come back, so i have. i dont like upset or anger so i just stay away but here:

I would have stayed away, which is my normal policy in such situation, but your conspicuous absence at the time....  I am glad you are back. 

[Mikiesboy]

@Ashi  it depends where you are i think ... here Gay people hold hands and stuff all the time. We do when we're out. Michael doesnt care how people feel. He says we have the same rights... 

[Ashi]

16 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

@Ashi  it depends where you are i think ... here Gay people hold hands and stuff all the time. We do when we're out. Michael doesnt care how people feel. He says we have the same rights... 

I don't care anymore if I got to hold hands.  It might give me blush because I know he loves me, not because I am self-conscious nowadays (but I need a BF first.  LOL).  Michael sounds so cool.   

[Kitt]

Ashy, your friend needs to remember one thing. A person who will cheat on their spouse, is a person who will cheat on their spouse. Will they divorce someone to marry a fling? Possibly, but what's to stop them from cheating on the new spouse?

Edited June 16, 2020 by Kitt

[Mikiesboy]

1 hour ago, Ashi said:

I don't care anymore if I got to hold hands.  It might give me blush because I know he loves me, not because I am self-conscious nowadays (but I need a BF first.  LOL).  Michael sounds so cool.   

He is...i wish i could be more like him...but then we wouldnt be married..lol

[rickproehl]

Excuse me Good Sirs and DiC Friends 

just wanted to stop in and say good afternoon.

i hope you have  a good day

how are things with you?

[Mikiesboy]

Just now, rickproehl said:

Excuse me Good Sirs and DiC Friends 

just wanted to stop in and say good afternoon.

i hope you have  a good day

how are things with you?

Just finished.. after yesterday's fiasco at work.. systems down, had to log off a million times. today was good, smooth. How's yours?

[MichaelS36]

2 hours ago, Ashi said:

I don't think anybody was trying to attack one another.  Communication via the Internet can be difficult sometimes as we missed 60% of the communication, which is the non-verbal cues.  Sometimes I reread my post and edited it just to put a smiley to it, as I realize with or without that smiley, the message can be interpreted very differently sometimes.... 

No harm is done, as far as I know.  I just wish you sleep well and stay healthy.  I almost woke up last night to see if I needed to modify my post, but I decided not to.  It bothered me a lot as I was strange enough, had been writing a chapter where MC kind of stopped caring what other thought of him, but he did care....  It's one of those strange thingy when you do something, and someone else you know (and care very much) suddenly has something happened in RL, and my funny little brain begins to draw parallel and it bothers me no end (and I am probably overthinking).  I had a feeling you knew what you were doing, you just needed time, so I left the post the way it is.  You have Tim, who like your meme suggests, is a very strong person, always next to you (physically and emotionally, I can feel it). 

 

You're right about the internet. I know too well about that. I worked on the child abuse squad for several years when I was a Detective. I saw more and read more than I will ever be able to forget. 

It can be an unhealthy place. I think we need to take a step back sometimes, perhaps ask; what do you mean? Not that I am perfect or not guilty of not doing that. I have. But I am always willing to listen and I will admit when I'm wrong. 

I would like to put this behind us and just move on with things. 

That is my hope.  Thank you Ashi, for your friendship and support. 

[rickproehl]

5 minutes ago, Mikiesboy said:

Just finished.. after yesterday's fiasco at work.. systems down, had to log off a million times. today was good, smooth. How's yours?

tim so far so good still working till 6 pm so all hades can break loose. we were told today we are still home till September. so who knows if we ever go back to the office. staying at home has its advantage my dog is at my feet laying on them it is close to her supper time. 

[MichaelS36]

19 hours ago, kbois said:

I want to be here.

I want to know you.

I want to feel welcomed.

Good. 

Good.

You are.   I'd add an emoji but,  they are not me. 

[kbois]

1 hour ago, MichaelS36 said:

Good. 

Good.

You are.   I'd add an emoji but,  they are not me. 

Thank you. 

It's been a tough day. 

[MichaelS36]

3 minutes ago, kbois said:

Thank you. 

It's been a tough day. 

Sorry it was tough. Glad to see you back. 

 

[Mikiesboy]

Just now, MichaelS36 said:

Sorry it was tough. Glad to see you back. 

 

Dinner is ready, Michael.