The Drop in Centre

[Reader1810]

@kbois Feel free to vent/let of steam whenever you need to. As Kitt said, we may not know what to say, but we will listen, which, hopefully, lightens your load. 
 

 

[kbois]

1 hour ago, MichaelS36 said:

Indeed. Caring for someone who has been hurt so deeply we 'normal' ones can never really and truly understand is hard.  tim can look after himself, but in down times, he'd stop taking his meds, stop eating, stop looking after himself. Meds would be forgotten or taken whenever.  So, I took that from him. Meds are on the counter for him, so he takes them. I book his appointments. Do I get frustrated and tired? Hell, yes.  But what could happen is so much worse, anything I have to deal with is nothing.

I have dragged him and carried him into hospital when he was suicidal. Having to do that when the other person does not want you to, is heart wrenching, sad, and embarrassing. I felt like a monster. 

But I'd do it all again, if I had to. Because I know what is inside of him, and that is worth the sacrifice. 

 

@kbois this does not mean I think you don't love or help your son. I know that is not true. I know while you may let it out in here, you are there making calls, reading and doing your best to help your child. For he is your child and though the law says 18 is grown up. Part of him will never be. He will learn slowly how to deal with it but he will always need you, even if sometimes it doesn't feel like he does. 

So come here, yell and scream, cry and rant ... if you need to.  

Thank you Mike. I have to admit that reading your post got me a little teary, but in a good way. It's comforting to have the support of everyone here. 

I don't think 'normal' will ever really apply again. Like tim said...the therapy, the meds, depression and anxiety is his life. It's true for my son too. 

We had a decent talk in the car when I brought him to his youth group thing. It's a start. I'm glad that we've only had one trip to the behavioral hospital and we were lucky that he didn't have to stay. I have told him in the past that I will not hesitate to Baker Act him if he becomes suicidal again. I hope I never have to go there. But you are soooooo right, it's worth the sacrifice we make. 

I think Moms have it harder than Dads. We carry a life inside us and endure a lot of pain bringing that life into this world. In the end the pain is worth it a thousand times over. I love my son, but I  often don't like his behavior. He is the child that will always need me more than his brother.

The sweet, little curly-haired tow headed little boy who 'discovered' a monster family under the chairs at his brother's karate class and made me 'wrap them up' and put them in my purse to take home is still in there somewhere. I have to believe that. 

Thank you again. The support that this group gives is incredible. ❤

(P.S. those "monsters" came with us everywhere for years.)

[kbois]

1 hour ago, Kitt said:

What he said. We will listen, even if we haven't a clue what to say to help.

Thank you Kitt....and @Reader1810. Just being here is enough. 

[kbois]

He might drive me crazy, but I'm really proud of this kid and what he can do with music.

This is a cover song he did, guitar and vocals. 

[rickproehl]

31 minutes ago, kbois said:

Thank you again. The support that this group gives is incredible. 

@kbois we all will face challenges and everyone on of us will lend a ear, offer advice and be there for you. so in DiC we are a family not by blood but something that brought us to tim’s room. We laugh together, cry together and we are there for each other. so if you need to vent we are here for you.

so take care 

[kbois]

30 minutes ago, rickproehl said:

@kbois we all will face challenges and everyone on of us will lend a ear, offer advice and be there for you. so in DiC we are a family not by blood but something that brought us to tim’s room. We laugh together, cry together and we are there for each other. so if you need to vent we are here for you.

so take care 

Thank you rick. 

[spyke]

1 hour ago, kbois said:

He might drive me crazy, but I'm really proud of this kid and what he can do with music.

This is a cover song he did, guitar and vocals. 

He's amazingly talented! Must run in the family.

Like everyone else has said,  please come and vent. We'll listen and offer up a shoulder to lean on and what ever else we can.  Take care of yourself and try to remain strong. 

[kbois]

35 minutes ago, spyke said:

He's amazingly talented! Must run in the family.

Like everyone else has said,  please come and vent. We'll listen and offer up a shoulder to lean on and what ever else we can.  Take care of yourself and try to remain strong. 

He loves music and I'm proud that he taught himself guitar. However...

He did NOT get any musical talent from me! I might be able to string a few words together, but I'm special ed when it comes to anything music related. 

Thanks for the shoulder and the encouragement.

[rickproehl]

Excuse me Good Sirs and DiC friends.

Just wanting to say good evening

Take care

[Reader1810]

31 minutes ago, rickproehl said:

Excuse me Good Sirs and DiC friends.

Just wanting to say good evening

Take care

Good night rick...happy dreams 

[mollyhousemouse]

good night everyone

[Mikiesboy]

[rickproehl]

Excuse me Good Sirs and DiC friends.

Just wanting to say good morning

today so far has been good. 

how has your day been?

was sent this quote thought i would share.

The two words 'information' and 'communication' are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things. Information is giving out; communication is getting through.

Sydney J. Harris

Take care 

[mollyhousemouse]

after a really smooth day yesterday, i seem to be pushing a dead car with square wheels UP a rock strewn hill today

taking a minute to step outside

hope all y'all are doing ok

[kbois]

4 hours ago, rickproehl said:

Excuse me Good Sirs and DiC friends.

Just wanting to say good morning

today so far has been good. 

how has your day been?

was sent this quote thought i would share.

The two words 'information' and 'communication' are often used interchangeably, but they signify quite different things. Information is giving out; communication is getting through.

Sydney J. Harris

Take care 

Things are getting better. Today I did a little adulting in the form of getting my oil changed in my car on my lunch hour. Then I got in touch with my inner child and ate a Tootsie Pop, which I can't even remember when the last time was that I had one. It definitely took more than three licks to get to the center. 

@mollyhousemouse I hope your day gets better. 

[mollyhousemouse]

@kbois it did, a little thanks

best part of tbe day was that dinner was in the crockpot early so all i had to do was boil some water for lo mein noodles

[Starrynight22]

Hey all.  

Today we had to shut visits all the way down at my work.  Nothing inside or outside.  My county COVID infection rate is rising alarmingly.  One of the local hospitals is close to diversion because they have no beds 

 

 

Its very disheartening 

[mollyhousemouse]

hi

have a good day

[kbois]

1 hour ago, mollyhousemouse said:

hi

have a good day

I'm hanging on by a thread....decided to skip lunch and leave an hour early. My brain already departed for vacation a few days ago. 

C'mon 4 o'clock.....you can do it! Giddyap!

[Reader1810]

3 hours ago, mollyhousemouse said:

hi

have a good day

Awww...

[Reader1810]

16 hours ago, Starrynight22 said:

Hey all.  

Today we had to shut visits all the way down at my work.  Nothing inside or outside.  My county COVID infection rate is rising alarmingly.  One of the local hospitals is close to diversion because they have no beds 

 

 

Its very disheartening 

Take care, Starry.  

[mollyhousemouse]

i've been unplugging lately, there's just too much online that's weighing on me. here's what i've been up to. there will be two, a cute set of tea towels

hope y'all are doing ok today, in spite of the challenges

[spyke]

18 minutes ago, mollyhousemouse said:

i've been unplugging lately, there's just too much online that's weighing on me. here's what i've been up to. there will be two, a cute set of tea towels

hope y'all are doing ok today, in spite of the challenges

That reminded me of a sweet lady I knew who passed away many years ago.  She loved butterflies. To this day, whenever I see one I think of her.  Thanks so much molly. I needed that today. 😊

[spyke]

2 hours ago, kbois said:

I'm hanging on by a thread....decided to skip lunch and leave an hour early. My brain already departed for vacation a few days ago. 

C'mon 4 o'clock.....you can do it! Giddyap!

Go home now.  It's 4 o'clock......................somewhere. LOL

 

[Reader1810]

So, I finally got the chance to use my leaf blower/vacuum, and it works great!  
 

Word of advice, when using the mulcher attachment, make sure the catchment bag is zippered closed.

That is all for this service announcement.