Why should there be a debate about love? Each person in every relationship, Gay, Straight, Bisexual, Open, or Committed has a role to play in that relationship. I could look at you, and your relationship with your partner, and perhaps find fault with it, if I so choose. So, why are you singling out Mike and tim, for how they live their life?
As Moggie has said, you're the one casting judgment and did so since your first post. Your condescending attitude was there from the first words you wrote and got worse with each posting. So, check your attitude, it's not needed here, nor anywhere else.