spyke Posted February 12 Posted February 12 52 minutes ago, kbois said: Having a child with mental health issues is so damn hard. Tonight was the first night in a long time that I let my emotions get the better of me. Its frustrating to reach the point where something inside you breaks and you realize yet again, you're going to be blamed for things beyond your control, the things that f*¢¥ up their mind completely. Throwing in the towel is so tempting, but just not feasible when I know he isn't a bad kid, but a kid that bad things happened to. Hopefully we can convince him to go back to therapy. I'll push through the negative emotions because I'm his mom. Its what I do. Sending love and light your way. 4
Site Moderator Reader1810 Posted February 12 Site Moderator Posted February 12 4 hours ago, kbois said: Having a child with mental health issues is so damn hard. Tonight was the first night in a long time that I let my emotions get the better of me. Its frustrating to reach the point where something inside you breaks and you realize yet again, you're going to be blamed for things beyond your control, the things that f*¢¥ up their mind completely. Throwing in the towel is so tempting, but just not feasible when I know he isn't a bad kid, but a kid that bad things happened to. Hopefully we can convince him to go back to therapy. I'll push through the negative emotions because I'm his mom. Its what I do. 4
chris191070 Posted February 12 Posted February 12 4 hours ago, kbois said: Having a child with mental health issues is so damn hard. Tonight was the first night in a long time that I let my emotions get the better of me. Its frustrating to reach the point where something inside you breaks and you realize yet again, you're going to be blamed for things beyond your control, the things that f*¢¥ up their mind completely. Throwing in the towel is so tempting, but just not feasible when I know he isn't a bad kid, but a kid that bad things happened to. Hopefully we can convince him to go back to therapy. I'll push through the negative emotions because I'm his mom. Its what I do. 2 2
Kitt Posted February 12 Posted February 12 Wishing there was more we could do for you than sending good thoughts @kbois 5
Popular Post Gary L Posted February 12 Popular Post Posted February 12 18 minutes ago, Kitt said: Wishing there was more we could do for you than sending good thoughts @kbois I so agree. But just a thought: years ago I did a minor in child psychology with an amazing young Jesuit psychology prof. He was asked about what would make the perfect parent. His reply has stuck with me since the 80’s: parents who are ‘perfect’ are a disaster for children. They need ‘good enough’ parents, to know they are loved but also to learn adults can have a bad day, make mistakes etc., that parents can say sorry etc. warm regards, @kbois, and a big virtual hug, gary 6
Mikiesboy Posted February 12 Author Posted February 12 Therapy is hard, leaving it is messy, but it can take a while to get it right. @kbois you're his mom, but no where does it say you need to be perfect. Parents, partners go through a lot, i know because i watched mine suffer because of me and things i've done. But i am grateful for their steadfast support and love. Your son is too somewhere and he loves you. hugs and love... i'm around if you need. xoxo 5
Popular Post kbois Posted February 13 Popular Post Posted February 13 Thanks everyone. Things are better today. The child did apologize which I appreciated. He took the day off. I had a dentist appointment today with the practice that my two uncles started back in the 60s and then my cousin took over about 25 years ago. I had the same hygienist I had 27 years ago lol. I didn't see my cousin but I saw my uncle (not one of the ones who started the practice) who I haven't seen since 2016. I also ran into one of my brothers at the grocery store (the idiot one) and he broke a rib falling on ice while taking out the trash. Sigh. I've decided that I shouldn't be allowed to go to my hometown unsupervised. My car somehow ended up in the parking lot of the local meat market that's been there forever. I blinked and I was $112 poorer lol. Dinner was a hit tonight spinach, onion, sun dried tomato, and cranberry stuffed pork loin with seasoned asparagus and Parmesan mashed taters. Yum. 6 1
Popular Post Mikiesboy Posted February 13 Author Popular Post Posted February 13 Happy Frieday (for some of you) it's nearly the weekend (for some or for those who care). It is also, World Radio day!! I like to listen to the radio sometimes when i'm in the kitchen doing things. Whatever the day is to you, I hope you enjoy it!! 3 4
chris191070 Posted February 13 Posted February 13 Well that's me with a week off. School has broken up for half term. Happy Friday ❤️ 5
Gary L Posted February 13 Posted February 13 3 hours ago, chris191070 said: Well that's me with a week off. School has broken up for half term. Happy Friday ❤️ Enjoy the break! 5
Kitt Posted February 13 Posted February 13 FINALLY got a reply out of the disability insurance peeps. Approved pending his jobs approval. Still no payments but a statement of what he is eligible for. Works out to 85% of his regular wage for approximately 20 weeks. The problem? He has already been out of work 14 weeks. At this rate his benefits will run out before he gets them! 1 2 2
Kitt Posted February 14 Posted February 14 1 hour ago, spyke said: I'm mad for you. Bureaucracy at its worst. 😠 I'm not angry. Just tired. 3 2
Site Moderator Reader1810 Posted February 14 Site Moderator Posted February 14 19 minutes ago, Kitt said: Awww…. He’s so sweet, who wouldn’t want to be his Valentine? 4
Popular Post Mikiesboy Posted February 15 Author Popular Post Posted February 15 (edited) Happy Sunday... I nearly said Friday. My lovely beta reader sent back his thoughts about my story, very kindly told me a few things and had some suggestions. I've been up since 5am working on them. Just the last chapter to do. But not today. I will go back to bed for a nap after breakfast i think. Have a great days folksis. Edited February 15 by Mikiesboy 7
Popular Post Mikiesboy Posted February 16 Author Popular Post Posted February 16 It's Family Day today in some Provinces, including Ontario. Lots of nice pics of straight families, i had to ask to see some chosen families rather than origin families to find pics of LGBTQ+. So, I got tired of trying to find an all inclusive picture to post here. I could have posted 5 or 6 pics, but this will have to do... So, enjoy your day if you celebrate it, whether with your origin family or one you've chosen. 6
Gary L Posted February 16 Posted February 16 Off to allergy clinic - a wait of 18 months. Didn’t read the instructions and shouldn’t have been taking antihistamines for 5 days, not the 2 I have done. Do I lie? 3
Popular Post Kitt Posted February 16 Popular Post Posted February 16 3 minutes ago, Gary L said: Off to allergy clinic - a wait of 18 months. Didn’t read the instructions and shouldn’t have been taking antihistamines for 5 days, not the 2 I have done. Do I lie? Nope. Need all the facts for it to add up to the right answers! 5 1
Wayne Gray Posted February 16 Posted February 16 48 minutes ago, Gary L said: Off to allergy clinic - a wait of 18 months. Didn’t read the instructions and shouldn’t have been taking antihistamines for 5 days, not the 2 I have done. Do I lie? Kitt is right. Antihistamines mask the body's response to allergens. So you may not react to things you should, which means you will not get the correct answers from any testing performed. If there's no testing that depends on a histamine response, your appointment will still happen. If there is, it'll need to be rescheduled. 3 1
Mikiesboy Posted February 16 Author Posted February 16 1 hour ago, Gary L said: Off to allergy clinic - a wait of 18 months. Didn’t read the instructions and shouldn’t have been taking antihistamines for 5 days, not the 2 I have done. Do I lie? once upon a time i would have lied, it was how i got through life, now i wouldn't. 1 3
Gary L Posted February 16 Posted February 16 I had to confess as the allergy test was a flop. Now awaiting a sermon from the previously lovely Dr. no idea when test will be repeated. Arghhh 1 3
spyke Posted February 16 Posted February 16 2 hours ago, Gary L said: I had to confess as the allergy test was a flop. Now awaiting a sermon from the previously lovely Dr. no idea when test will be repeated. Arghhh You did the right thing even if it means a delay in your testing. 1 2
Gary L Posted February 16 Posted February 16 2 hours ago, spyke said: You did the right thing even if it means a delay in your testing. Using my full-power Anglo Irish charm I got an appointment for next Monday. It wouldn’t have worked on Nurse Rachett but the (female) dr fell for it! Of course, I then had to confess at home….🤭 5
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