Headstall's Reflections - 49. S-I-L

Hi Gary, this is so heartfelt, I can feel it till here over the pond. I don`t like family drama, too. Sometimes you just have to set a boundary, to protect oneself. Glad you did it. Hug you

4 minutes ago, Lyssa said:

Hi Gary, this is so heartfelt, I can feel it till here over the pond. I don`t like family drama, too. Sometimes you just have to set a boundary, to protect oneself. Glad you did it. Hug you

Thanks, Lyssa. I thought the drama would die down. I could ignore it, but it really hurts my sister, so my line has been drawn. My mom would want family peace... but it's gone past that point.  

Family drama, surely not in this advanced age of the 21st Century?   

How well I know it...having provided a little of it myself when my father found out my sexuality.  My mother had said she was fine if I were gay, but when I finally met someone who I'd have introduced to her as my One, she'd met him at my house a year or so earlier, and disliked him on principle...so...you know how that goes. 

I dislike drama in my own life, and have been fairly good at not having it--now if only other people would do me the favor of not bringing their's into my tranquil pool. 

I just don't know how you capture my feelings in nearly every piece, my dearest friend--but keep on!

Strife of any kind is frustrating, but when it's instigated by family, it's even harder to deal with. Sorry your family's dealing with bullsh*t, Gary. Venting is good therapy. Writing poetry even more so - and that's something you do very well. Take care, my friend. - Mac

I can't do more than offer hugs of support ...

3 hours ago, ColumbusGuy said:

Family drama, surely not in this advanced age of the 21st Century?   

How well I know it...having provided a little of it myself when my father found out my sexuality.  My mother had said she was fine if I were gay, but when I finally met someone who I'd have introduced to her as my One, she'd met him at my house a year or so earlier, and disliked him on principle...so...you know how that goes. 

I dislike drama in my own life, and have been fairly good at not having it--now if only other people would do me the favor of not bringing their's into my tranquil pool. 

I just don't know how you capture my feelings in nearly every piece, my dearest friend--but keep on!

Thanks, buddy. I have a real aversion to drama, but with families, you have to try to keep the peace. But I've reached a point, I'm not even go to try. Thanks for your support for my little poem. 'Tranquil pool'... yeah, most want that, I think, but there are exceptions... cheers... Gary....

2 hours ago, MacGreg said:

Strife of any kind is frustrating, but when it's instigated by family, it's even harder to deal with. Sorry your family's dealing with bullsh*t, Gary. Venting is good therapy. Writing poetry even more so - and that's something you do very well. Take care, my friend. - Mac

Thanks, Mac. Yeah, venting through poetry is satisfying... I felt better after writing this.... cheers, buddy... Gary....

1 hour ago, dughlas said:

I can't do more than offer hugs of support ...

Thanks, dugh. It's okay. I have my kids and grandson, and I have my sister and her daughters... that works for me... I'm done with the drama  Cheers... Gary...

35 minutes ago, Headstall said:

Thanks, buddy. I have a real aversion to drama, but with families, you have to try to keep the peace. But I've reached a point, I'm not even go to try. Thanks for your support for my little poem. 'Tranquil pool'... yeah, most want that, I think, but there are exceptions... cheers... Gary....

Tranquil pool is perhaps wishful thinking...I believe I've seen more than one shark in it. 

1 hour ago, ColumbusGuy said:

Tranquil pool is perhaps wishful thinking...I believe I've seen more than one shark in it. 

And the occasional school of piranhas  

This sounds rough Gary. I guess out of the way is the best place. Try to stay chill..  xoxo

I thought only Italian families and Asian families (chinese / japanese / korean) have any serious family dramas ... only joking ...

Families are microcosms of societies as a whole, so as an inevitable outcome of human nature, strife is bound to take place ...  

Peacekeeping is often exhausting and in a lot cases ineffectual; no wonder you're burnt out ...

As with @dughlas, I'll offer you more of these

Ahh family drama.  I know it far too well.  I think, unfortunately, everyone can relate.  My defense is usually to detach myself, but that's not always realistic.  I hope things get better for your loved ones, Gary.  

Toxic family members are so tough to deal with, or even just family members having a toxic period. I've had to deal with that stuff more on the friend and partner side of things, so at least I've been able to let those people go (though it took me a long time to understand the damage some of the toxic friendships I had when I was younger did to me...). The family drama is tougher, because discarding those people is breaking a different kind of bond... It's good to learn thick skin, but we still have to recognize when the hurts still seep through the calluses. No matter how much we wish it wasn't true, scars are still weak points.

On 4/14/2017 at 11:54 PM, Mikiesboy said:

This sounds rough Gary. I guess out of the way is the best place. Try to stay chill..  xoxo

Thanks, tim. It's taken years, but I've drawn a line. No regrets... xoxo

On 4/15/2017 at 4:47 AM, hohochan657 said:

I thought only Italian families and Asian families (chinese / japanese / korean) have any serious family dramas ... only joking ...

Families are microcosms of societies as a whole, so as an inevitable outcome of human nature, strife is bound to take place ...  

Peacekeeping is often exhausting and in a lot cases ineffectual; no wonder you're burnt out ...

As with @dughlas, I'll offer you more of these

Yeah, it is exhausting, hoho. And not worth the bother when there is so much animosity between two family members... I've done what I could... I had to take a side...  

23 hours ago, LitLover said:

Ahh family drama.  I know it far too well.  I think, unfortunately, everyone can relate.  My defense is usually to detach myself, but that's not always realistic.  I hope things get better for your loved ones, Gary.  

In the end, I'm siding with my mother's daughter... it's what she would have wanted, I'm sure. She knew of the jealousy that existed before she passed, and it hurt her a lot. Thanks, Lit  

21 hours ago, Lux Apollo said:

Toxic family members are so tough to deal with, or even just family members having a toxic period. I've had to deal with that stuff more on the friend and partner side of things, so at least I've been able to let those people go (though it took me a long time to understand the damage some of the toxic friendships I had when I was younger did to me...). The family drama is tougher, because discarding those people is breaking a different kind of bond... It's good to learn thick skin, but we still have to recognize when the hurts still seep through the calluses. No matter how much we wish it wasn't true, scars are still weak points.

 

So true. I'm disappointed... I expected more from my siblings. I can do no more... I can take anything for myself, but this showed no sign of resolving... felt good to write this one. Thanks, buddy... Gary....